Inspirational Stories
Couple is perfect for each other, but their universal timing is not right.
It is always an amazing journey that we create for ourselves. I am in awe of the process on a weekly basis as I have the opportunity to explore, listen, read and convey life-stories, lessons, belief patterns and information back to the individual asking the questions. We are incredible creations and have the opportunity daily to explore and express so very much. We weave such intricate patterns of design; I'm amazed we ever doubt ourselves as the images are so brightly woven by our 'hand'.
I have been working with a particular client off and on for three years, depending on the next layer of information she wants to ferret out and shift, change, embrace. She has moved through some incredible challenges and hurdles, from losing a pregnancy to giving up smoking. Also within this time frame she has been involved very intimately with a partner that reflected back to her intensity in all its forms. They recently broke off the relationship in recognition of their differences in long term goals and "personal" timing. She is ready for a "committed full-time let's move towards setting goals" relationship and he is just finding himself. He is ready to bail, literally, leave everything behind and explore another avenue in the spiritual world by going to a school dedicated to meditation and acupuncture. She is ready to begin her PhD program as she is already in a great working environment and is steady in her career.
Their situation is more common than you think. It is the Universal timing of the relationship that puts them on different paths to explore their reality. (Remember they planned it this way.) The challenging part has been in the fact that they both love each other and yet have to say goodbye. (Like the Thomas Dolby song "I love you, Goodbye") It is recognizing the Bigger Picture and the Divine Plan of each individual soul that needs to be considered. It is easy to become enmeshed in the details and flying emotions when you are in a relationship that feels right, yet continually throws you curve balls. If you stay aware, you have the ability to really 'see' if the end result is a good one for both of you. Your contracts with one another may entail just supporting one another and giving the other a boost to the next level. It could be about exploring an emotion that you have kept buried and this person has the ability to help you bring it to the light. The amount of time with someone really isn't as important as much as the value you get from the time you did share. (Remember different ones over your life that you met briefly, yet have left a profound impression.) The key is to recognize when it is time to let go. If we stay too long we can lose our self, literally. Use a glass of water as our analogy. When you over-fill the glass, water will spill onto the surrounding area. Your personal energy field is analogous to this. If you continue to pour emotions into something that is already full (finished/complete), your energy will spill out till you literally feel depleted emotionally as well as draining you physically.
We are all looking for a good mirror to be in our lives. We would like to find and have a fulfilling connection with someone that makes us feel happy, safe, contented and relaxed. The number one component is you have to feel those things about yourself first before a good long lasting relationship can really blossom. In other words, be the person you would love to fall 'in love' with. Be the person that you find attractive, taking responsibility for your actions, being positive (not complaining), moving towards self actualization and away from victimization and martyrdom, and decide what you'd like to learn next, what you want to do next, what course of action you are going to take to make your life easier, more joyful, more complete. Be exciting! When you do that, watch how people respond to you differently, find you attractive and want to be in your presence. All you have to do is begin now one step at a time. Just one step.
- Start mapping a course of action for yourself, a direction where you are excited to get up in the morning and begin your life anew.
- Let go of things, (check out those closets and drawers) and relationships that no longer serve you.
- Find a mentor or guide to assist your journey, to help with accountability as well as giving you support.
- Be proud of the daily steps you make each week. Reward yourself with gifts of love, a bouquet of flowers, a new movie, a book, a telephone call to a friend or family member. It makes the journey worthwhile and at the same time changes the brain chemistry.
- Find creative time for singing, listening to music, dancing, drawing, woodworking, car building, butterfly watching, flower planting, star gazing, hiking, biking, camping, collecting rocks......the list is endless!! Just do it, make the time. Be fun!
- Set goals for yourself. If it requires a second job so you can do what you really want to do, then find a flexible position to help you reach your goals. (Example: my client took a second job in a restaurant as a hostess on weekends for extra cash. She is a full time elementary school teacher; however she is saving money to take a trip to India for two months.) Make it happen, but you have to initiate the process. You will feel great about yourself when you do. Extra work can keep you focused, almost like long meditations if done in the right frame of mind. It's about making a commitment to you. In this frame of mind working becomes more fun and exciting as you make your desires a reality.
- As you are transforming yourself, you become more beautiful to the world because you are becoming more beautiful to you. When this happens a new and loving relationship has the ability, the opportunity, and the chance to come into your life.
Be honest with yourself. Assess your life and where you want to go and what you want to do. Today is a great day to begin.
Michelle Brennan
